So many times I hear parents say, “I can’t do this anymore.”  They feel like they are at the end of their rope and they are always talking about what they are doing with their child.  The problem is they still think the child needs to change and not them. 

When I hear this phrase I ask them “When she does that what do you do?”   This is the true question.  When she does that I do this!  When parents can name what they are doing in reaction to their child then the true work begins. 

The only thing you have to focus on is what you are doing not what your child is doing.  You truly have the power to not do what is causing you suffering.  You don’t have the power to change someone else so you don’t have to do what you are doing. 

This is always an empowering step when parents truly realize they CAN stop doing what they are doing.  This is where the power lies and as they become honest with themselves and begin shifting their behavior miracles happen. 

So, when you hear yourself say, “I can’t do this anymore” take heart and listen to yourself.  STOP what you are doing to cause your suffering.  When you return to joy your child will follow!