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Flow

Our children have a natural ability to live in the flow. Watch how quickly they are able to move from one state of being to the next. As adults we have a tendency to hold onto certain states of being, giving them more power than they actually have. We get attached to certain habitual states and when our children flow into uncharted waters we often resist flowing with them.

My daughter couldn’t find her swim suit today which sent her into a state of distress…. As she flowed into those choppy waters, I saw how I entered with her. I perceived her making it my fault and instead of flowing in the waters, I resisted and found I added to the distress. When I caught myself and took a breath, I entered back into the flow of looking for the suit instead of focusing on resisting the distress. I was able to use the energy to enter back into the flow returning to the task at hand which opened me to remembering when I had last seen the suit.

As I moved back into the flow, she joined with me and together we quickly found the suit. We entered the choppy waters and yet instead of getting stuck in them, we moved quickly through into calmer ones.

Practice: Notice how often you resist the flow of ”what is”, trying to impose your own rhythm on the natural order of things. When you notice you are doing this, take a deep breath allowing yourself to use this energy to support you in entering back into the natural flow of the moment.